Stikkord: LGBTQ+

Trans Mission: My Quest to a Beard – Alex Bertie

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Trans Mission is both a narrative about one person’s experience with discovering his gender identity and seeking medical help to transition and a sort of Transition 101. For anyone who knows little about what being transgender and taking steps to transition entails (whether questioning their own identity or just wanting to be a better ally) it’s probably quite a useful book and it’s definitely the sort of thing that I’d recommend for a school library.

The book reads rather like a transcript of a series of YouTube videos, which is unsurprising considering Alex Bertie is a YouTuber. It’s not neccessarily a bad thing, especially for the (probable) intended audience. The style is chatty and personal, and makes me feel old. I am not joking, either, Alex comes across as very young to my eyes. But then again: He is young. I assume I’m likely about the same age as his parents. I found myself wanting a smidge more mature reflection while reading, but I’m not actually sure that that would have improved the book as is. Perhaps I just wanted to read a different sort of book altogether.

It’s interesting to read about the process Alex had to go through with his parents before they were won over to fully accept and support his identity, but also frustrating, as I find the whole concept of not accepting your child they way they are wholly foreign and… bisarre. Being slow to catch on and needing things spelled out is one thing, actually denying reality or trying to convince the child it is «just a phase» quite another. Though I suppose Alex has a point when he sums it up:

Transitioning is always going to be a big deal to your parents and they’re never going to respond with, ‘Oh golly! I’m so glad my child is trapped in a body that makes them feel horrible!’ (At 38 %)

An episode both Alex and his mother (who gets to have her say in a chapter at the end of the book) recount is how he was forcefully persuaded to wear a dress at a junior prom. Even though he was not out as trans at the time (or even yet himself aware), what would the harm have been in letting him choose a suit? At least there’s a happy end, so to say:

His college leaving party was much better than his middle-school prom. Alex went in clothes he had chosen himself, with the hairstyle he wanted, and not an ounce of make-up in sight. He had no stress about conforming to the expectations of others, or the related pressures of gender dysphoria. My happy child was back: his college party photos are of a beaming Alex posing with all his mates. Finally, he was comfortable and settled and looking forward to his next chapter in life. (At 89 %)

Getting the mother’s point of view at the end is a good idea, but I don’t feel like it really provides an explanation for the slow process (and to some extent seems to suggest that there was a lot of miscommunication rather than actual lack of support). Perhaps it would have been more interesting to hear from Alex’s father, who seems to have taken a much longer time to accept reality?

I certainly learned something from Alex, though, and that’s never a bad thing, even if I think I was hoping for a different sort of book. (On that note: Hit me with suggestions for memoirs by trans people if you know any!)

Boka har jeg kjøpt sjøl.

Vi skulle vært løver – Line Baugstø

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Malin går i sjuende og skulle gjerne vært modigere slik at hun kunne stått i mot klassens leder Sarah og de andre kule jentene. Dessuten skulle hun gjerne hatt en bestevenn. Når det begynner en ny jente i klassen er Malin helt klar for å «kapre» henne som venn, og selv om Leona slett ikke er en jente med superkrefter, som Malin synes navnet skulle tilsi, men derimot virker enda mer sjenert og redd enn Malin selv er de to jentene på god vei til å bli bestevenner. Men Leona har en hemmelighet, hun ble født som gutt. Når hemmeligheten avsløres i garderoben etter gymtimen må Malin velge mellom å følge flokken eller å støtte Leona og risikere å bli utstøtt av de andre.

Selv om Vi skulle vært løver på mange måter er hyperaktuell, og absolutt kan sees som et slags innlegg i debatten om transkjønnede og deres rettigheter (som i mine øyne ikke burde vært en debatt i det hele tatt, transkvinner er kvinner, transmenn er menn, vi er alle individer. Deal with it, og slutt å heng deg så j***g opp i hva andre folk – ikke minst barn! – har mellom beina </endrant>). Samtidig er boka rett og slett en klassisk, men god, fortelling om det å være i begynnelsen av tenårene og både ville høre til og være en av de kule, men samtidig se at «de kule» ikke egentlig er så kule likevel. Hemmeligheten til Leona kunne vært hva som helst som hadde gjort henne annerledes og utsatt for mobbing og historien ville ikke endret seg noe videre. Og kanskje det er nettopp derfor boka ikke føles som et debattinnlegg (noe den jevne tolvåring neppe er interessert i å lese), men rett og slett en ganske god barnebok?

Simon vs the Homo Sapiens Agenda – Becky Albertalli

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Simon vs the Homo Sapiens Agenda har vært omtalt så mye og med så mye jubel at jeg var en smule skeptisk til å lese den, jeg regnet egentlig med å bli skuffet. Men jeg begynte i alle fall, i jula 2017, og så ble boka ryddet bort i hui og hast sammen med en bunke papirer og havnet på et sted jeg vanligvis ikke legger bøker og derfor tok det noen måneder før jeg fant den igjen (altså, jeg lette ikke SÅ hardt, som vanlig holdt jeg vel på med en to-tre andre bøker også). Men i sommer fikk jeg endelig lest andre halvpart, og det er jeg svært glad for, for Simon skuffet ikke i det hele tatt.

Det er mye som er bra med boka, men jeg skal trekke fram to ting.

Først og fremst er det en ganske rett-fram kjærlighetshistorie med forviklinger på malen hen møter hen, forviklinger skjer, de finner ut av det og lever lykkelig alle sine dager. At «møtet» foregår anonymt på nett er med på å skape forviklingene, det samme er det faktum at det ikke er «boy meets girl», men snarere «boy meets boy», men samtidig kan man fint skrive en tilsvarende forviklingshistorie med andre kjønnskonstellasjoner (se f.eks. You Got Mail). Og nettopp det er litt befriende med Simons historie.

Den andre tingen jeg liker spesielt godt er diskusjonen rundt det å «komme ut». Simon mener det er urettferdig at bare LGBT+ må drive med sånt, hvorfor skal man ikke også måtte komme ut som hetero, og jeg er tilbøyelig til å være enig. I alle fall får Albertalli belyst hvordan det å stå fram som homse kan være vanskelig nok selv i en vennligstilt verden der man egentlig ikke forventer negative reaksjoner: Det man derimot forventer er «styr», eller oppmerksomhet, om du vil. Er du ikke typen som liker å ha alles blikk rettet mot deg er det lett å kjenne seg igjen i Simons kvaler.

Ellers? Albertallis persongalleri er fullt av mennesker du gjerne kunne tenke deg å kjenne. Selv «skurken» viser seg å være ganske ok, og Simon og «Blue» er så søte at man kan få diabetes type 2 av mindre (det hjelper ikke at jeg er gammel nok til å være moren deres og mammahjertet dermed banker litt ekstra). Jeg kommer nok til å kjøpe oppfølgeren også.

Boka er forøvrig blitt filmatisert under tittelen «Love, Simon». Jeg har hørt bra ting om filmen også, det er mulig den skal sees på noe tidspunkt.

Wandering Son, Vol 8 – Takako Shimura

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wanderingsonvol8I picked up Vol 1 of Wandering Son by Takako Shimura because it was displayed quite prominently at the main branch of the local library, and pretty much devoured the first 7 volumes in quick succession last year. I never got around to writing about it, and so thought I’d borrow one of them again as a reference to get a blog post down, but then found that Vol 8 had made its appearance, so I borrowed that instead.

The plot of Wandering Son centers around Shuichi Nitori, «a boy who wants to be a girl», and Shuichi’s friend Yoshino Takatsuki, «a girl who wants to be a boy» and I find it quite fascinating for a variety of reasons. There are another 7 volumes to go, and I will definitely be reading them all once they appear in English.

According to the wikipedia page, the series has received a lot of positive attention, but has also been criticized for the unrealistic maturity of the protagonists. To some extent I suppose there’s something in that. The series starts when Shuichi starts fifth grade at a new school, and on the whole most of the people he meets seem curious and accepting of gender bending, which has struck me as somewhat unrealistic. The only really antagonistic and, in contrast with all the rest, childish reactions come from Shuichi’s sister. And perhaps both Shuichi and Yoshino are more maturely self-aware than one could expect. On the other hand I suspect being transgender, in whatever degree or form, would tend to force self-awareness on any kid.

On the plus-side the artwork is delightful, deceptively simplistic. The characters may be unrealistically mature, but they are loveably human and I find it fascinating to follow their transition into puberty (which holds unusual challenges if you’re transgender) and their attempts at coming to terms with their identity.

The English edition is «unflipped», which means that though the text is translated, the pages are printed like the original, you need to start at what we’d consider to be the back of the book and read the panels from right to left. You’d think this would be tricky to keep track of, but once you’re into the story it’s such a page-turner that I really didn’t notice.

On the whole I highly reccommend Wandering Son. If you’ve been meaning to read more graphic novels, or try manga, this is a pretty good place to start. And for me it covers all of two topics on the Book Riot Read Harder challenge, so that’s a boon, too.

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